How long has that been there?

We see a long hair above our lip or chin and a feeling of shame washes over us “Ffs! How long has that been there?” Have you ever felt that too? The external sources tell us that looking youthful is what it’s all about. Firmer skin, less wrinkles, contours and concealers to mask blemishes. Really? For who? Why? Give me a break! But in all transparency, I have to consciously remember to think that way, as my default setting is to go along with that thinking… We have been so deeply conditioned by the media and social culture, the patriarchy. My body last gave birth to a child over 25 years ago – it created 2 children of the next generation. I’ve had many surgeries and joint replacements, so I have scars. I’ve laid in the sunshine, I have sunspots. I am a woman of 51 and I have experienced so many chapters in my lifetime – as you have too. I’m a real, natural woman. Let’s pluck and tuck if we like, but let’s remember to feel good about the bodies we have. Let’s accept how they are ageing and celebrate the privilege of life in our mid years!  Btw, you’re beautiful just the way you are

Hear me on a Podcast

I was thrilled to invited to chat with Susan Burrell recently, on her new podcast! Susan like me, is all for empowering women, especially those who are in our age group. We met earlier this year in San Diego when we both attended a retreat. She’s one incredible lady! You can listen in by clicking on the link below and scrolling down to find the episode where I’m featured. Would love to hear your feedback!…/chats-susan-burrell/

What triggers you?

I’ve heard it said that less than 5% of people know what they want and actively take steps to achieve their desires. But what about your most simple day to day ‘wants’? How do you communicate them to those around you? Do you get triggered by your partner leaving the lid off the toothpaste? Or do you secretly fume inside because your partner doesn’t willingly enter into a conversation about the next step in your relationship? Telepathy can never be relied upon 😉 So if something is important to you, and you want someone to help you to achieve it or have it – ask. Don’t be afraid, be empowered. Say what you want ❤️ You can do it. I know you can X

Communicate your needs

An empowered woman has boundaries, honours her values and has her needs met. That’s only part of the story, an empowered woman needs to use her voice to share them otherwise she feels triggered and resentful much of the time. I used to feel like a doormat years ago, I was a perpetual people pleaser, always dropping whatever I was doing to help others. I didn’t communicate my needs and so was constantly disappointed when situations didn’t go the way I wanted. Does this resonate? Take your power back and communicate your needs. People can’t read your mind ☺️

Using your voice for good

Hey love, one of the benefits of being in my mid-years is that I have found my voice. How about you? Do you feel more confident to speak your truth, even when you’re not sure how it will land with the other person? ⠀⠀ You see the more we use our voices – even when it feels uncomfortable, the easier it becomes the next time we need to speak out. ⠀⠀ The more we assert ourselves when we call out inappropriate behaviour at in our close relationships, at work, with our clients etc be it controlling, bullying, misogynistic we may have to dig deep to find our voice – but it’s there, you have it and the more you speak out loud about what you take a stand for, the easier it will become. ⠀⠀ You may have made sacrifices as a mother, but now as an empty nester, do not betray your own happiness, dreams or truth. Take a stand for YOU.