Isn’t it astonishing how much has changed in our world and in own personal worlds over the last 5 weeks or so? Who could have predicted this? Most of us are creatures of habit and in general we tend to stick with our usual routines. Whilst there are times when we feel restless and may crave significant change in our lives, the comfort and security we gain from continuing to live life as we have done, often out weighs the risk or fear of change. But, here we are – in the midst of a global pandemic with our lives changed in so many ways. Of course there are new concerns, uncertainty and stresses… and this ‘lock down’ also gives us all an opportunity to reflect on what we are gaining from this significant shift – this new paradigm. * What is working in your life and what needs to be changed. * What is important to you now? * What are you valuing? * Who is important to you – who are you reaching out to reconnect with? * How are you adapting? * Where are you saving – money, time, energy? * What new skills are you learning? * What are you giving yourself permission to do, be or have? * What would you like to be doing differently when life returns to some sort of ‘normal’? * What/who are you grateful for especially at this time? This morning on the Fab Friends Sisterhood Circle we all thought of a few ways that ‘lock down’ is giving us new opportunities. You may like to write a letter to your future self about what you have learned so far about yourself and your life so that you don’t slip back into the old ways when we return to some sort of ‘normal’.
During this global pandemic it’s easy for us to get caught up in the distress, overwhelm and anxiety of what is happening to people and economies of all countries – and especially those who are our nearest and dearest. You may worry about your own health and well being – that is normal. I will always be an advocate of taking care of your mind, body and spirit. These 3 parts are all interconnected and need to be nurtured and looked after. When your mind is whirling away doing whatever you can to relax your body and stay grounded. Every time you feel yourself slipping into an anxious state acknowledge your feelings – they are valid. On my twice weekly group call, I shared 7 ways you can practice daily, which may help you to feel more grounded and relaxed especially during this often overwhelming time. 1. Close your eyes, still your mind. Take a deep breath in through your nose and slowly count to 3, hold your breath for the count of 3 and exhale from your mouth slowly. Repeat this for 3 rounds. How do you feel now? 2. Get outside however you can. Most of us are allowed outside for one hour of exercise a day. Even if it means going out in the evening, take that hour and consciously take notice and look at the beauty of nature all around you. Time time to feel the air on your skin, is it cold, warm? What signs of spring can you see? Colours, fragrances. Can you hear bird sound? Notice how spring continues to unfurl. Feel your body soften as you slow down. 3. When you get out of bed in the morning, imagine stepping into or pulling up a big, gorgeous bubble around you – a protective shield. You can imagine it to be any colour your like. Set an intention for this bubble to keep all negative energies away from ‘getting to you’ – from other people (energy vampires), upsetting Covid-19 stories in the news and anything else you would like to be protected from. I always imagine that those negative energies just ‘ping’ off me, like arrows failing to hit a target. 4. One of my guides, Gabrielle Bernstein has a beautiful de-stress and empowering tool. I’ve been using this for years. Touch your index finger against your thumb and then each finger your thumb in turn and say “peace, begins, with, me.” You can choose another positive feeling – and say “joy, begins, with, me”. Practice this until you feel at peace. 5. Take time each day to do something that takes you out of stress and into peace. What do you love to do for you? What will you give yourself permission to do? Have a bubble bath? Yoga? Read a book? Write a letter to a friend or loved one? 6. Create or double down on daily spiritual practice. Take time each day to still you mind during meditation, burn incense, defuse essential oil, listen to devotional music. Read an inspiring book – even if that means dipping in and reading random passages and pages. 7. Each day, say to yourself and/or write down what you are grateful for we can easily overlook our blessings. The roof over our head, food in our cupboards, the courageous NHS and all front line workers… technology to keep in touch with family and friends. The increased community spirit and volunteers behind the scenes who make life so much better for all of us. We will get through this time. We are all in this together. It’s normal for you to feel stressed and that is ok – it’s also ok to move into peace and calm. I’m here for you.
Shall I? Shan’t I? Have you ever wanted to wear a gorgeous outfit but you talked yourself out of it because you were concerned what others might think? Or wanted to share a video or record a Facebook Live – but worried what kind of reaction you would get? I know I have. Don’t let the negative self talk stop you from showing up and stealing your truth. Last week I was in sunny Cyprus with Andrew – and as you’ll remember one of my personal negative stories I’ve been telling myself for years, was that in my 50’s with scars, cellulite, a wobbly midlife midriff… I wasn’t comfortable to be seen in a bikini and so have hidden in one piece swimsuits. So on this holiday, I decided to call out that limiting belief for what it was and showed up poolside wearing my new bikinis. How did it feel? I felt very nervous when I took off my cover up. Did anyone gasp in horror? NO Did anyone even notice? NO Did the world stop turning? NO Did I survive? YES!! Did I feel good after a short while? YES really good!! I felt GREAT! And it felt totally empowering to breaking a limiting belief! Now, you may not bat an eyelid about wearing a bikini – and that’s great. But I wonder: Where are you holding yourself back and not showing up fully? I want to encourage you to be braver this week. How will you be more visible in your life and in your business? What’s the outcome you would love to have? Are you ‘walking your talk’? To help you feel braver, download, read and take action using the the second recent free workbook which I created for you ‘How To Overcome The Fear Of Being Visible’. Inside I’ll reveal to you: Why you fear being visible Coaching questions to ask yourself How to overcome the fear And how to receive empowering messages from your female ancestors Download your free workbook here. I’ve already had much positive feedback about the guide and workbook – it’s given some a much needed ‘nudge’, others have said it’s been ‘great advice’ and that they are now ‘taking action’ – and that it’s inspiring to see me ‘walking my talk’. Let me know how you intend to be braver this week? Tag me in any of your social media posts or email me to let me know!! I’ll be cheering you on and doing my best happy dance for you! Much love Ali xx
Have you ever got yourself ready to post something on social media – and then thought twice about revealing something about yourself? Wanted to record a video or a Facebook Live and then found a hundred other things to do instead, like make a cup of tea, empty the dishwasher, decide the lighting isn’t right, or that your hair isn’t quite good enough today – talk yourself out of recording and sharing your message? I know I have. And that’s what I want to talk with you about today. I want you to know that the fear of being visible is normal. We all feel that in various degrees and in different situations. The menopausal years can effect our confidence and self esteem. Fear of being visible can be the very thing that robs you of your dreams, your happiness and the life you know you’re meant to live. I’ve put together a free workbook for you ‘How To Overcome The Fear Of Being Visible’. Inside I’ll reveal to you: Why we feel fear to be visible Coaching questions to ask yourself How to overcome the fear And how to receive empowering messages from your female ancestors Download your free workbook here. Please message me and let me know which pieces of the workbook you’ve resonated with and what you’re going to do differently as a result. You are born into this time for a reason. You are here to make a difference, to be a role model for change, to share your ‘you-ness’, your important message – and we want to hear you. Sending love from sunny Paphos, where I am this week! Ali xx
I mentioned a few weeks ago about the challenges that many midlife women say they face, which is beginning to feel like they are ‘invisible’. I’ve had some really interesting emails back from ladies on my email list and some vary from the feeling of being ‘invisible’ – to the fear of being ‘visible’. I’ve put together a detailed guide for you – ‘From Invisibility In Midlife to Feeling Good & Standing Out!’ or for short ‘The Midlife Visibility Breakthrough’. This is particularly for you, if you’re finding yourself feeling ‘invisible’ from time to time. You’ll find my guidance, questions to ask yourself and practical exercises to support you to regain your confidence and shine brightly in any situation. Click here to read and download your copy of the guide. When we are in the midst of the menopausal years with the various hormonal symptoms we experience in our bodies – and the big changes at home that often happen at this time of our lives, it’s no wonder you can forget how blooming amazing and valuable you are and instead feel like you’re melting into the background. I’d love to hear your feedback on ‘The Midlife Visibility Breakthrough’ – so please message me via email or send me a message on Facebook and let me know! Have a great week! Much love Ali xx