Isn’t it astonishing how much has changed in our world and in own personal worlds over the last 5 weeks or so? Who could have predicted this? Most of us are creatures of habit and in general we tend to stick with our usual routines. Whilst there are times when we feel restless and may crave significant change in our lives, the comfort and security we gain from continuing to live life as we have done, often out weighs the risk or fear of change. But, here we are – in the midst of a global pandemic with our lives changed in so many ways. Of course there are new concerns, uncertainty and stresses… and this ‘lock down’ also gives us all an opportunity to reflect on what we are gaining from this significant shift – this new paradigm. * What is working in your life and what needs to be changed. * What is important to you now? * What are you valuing? * Who is important to you – who are you reaching out to reconnect with? * How are you adapting? * Where are you saving – money, time, energy? * What new skills are you learning? * What are you giving yourself permission to do, be or have? * What would you like to be doing differently when life returns to some sort of ‘normal’? * What/who are you grateful for especially at this time? This morning on the Fab Friends Sisterhood Circle we all thought of a few ways that ‘lock down’ is giving us new opportunities. You may like to write a letter to your future self about what you have learned so far about yourself and your life so that you don’t slip back into the old ways when we return to some sort of ‘normal’.
Have you ever got yourself ready to post something on social media – and then thought twice about revealing something about yourself? Wanted to record a video or a Facebook Live and then found a hundred other things to do instead, like make a cup of tea, empty the dishwasher, decide the lighting isn’t right, or that your hair isn’t quite good enough today – talk yourself out of recording and sharing your message? I know I have. And that’s what I want to talk with you about today. I want you to know that the fear of being visible is normal. We all feel that in various degrees and in different situations. The menopausal years can effect our confidence and self esteem. Fear of being visible can be the very thing that robs you of your dreams, your happiness and the life you know you’re meant to live. I’ve put together a free workbook for you ‘How To Overcome The Fear Of Being Visible’. Inside I’ll reveal to you: Why we feel fear to be visible Coaching questions to ask yourself How to overcome the fear And how to receive empowering messages from your female ancestors Download your free workbook here. Please message me and let me know which pieces of the workbook you’ve resonated with and what you’re going to do differently as a result. You are born into this time for a reason. You are here to make a difference, to be a role model for change, to share your ‘you-ness’, your important message – and we want to hear you. Sending love from sunny Paphos, where I am this week! Ali xx
I mentioned a few weeks ago about the challenges that many midlife women say they face, which is beginning to feel like they are ‘invisible’. I’ve had some really interesting emails back from ladies on my email list and some vary from the feeling of being ‘invisible’ – to the fear of being ‘visible’. I’ve put together a detailed guide for you – ‘From Invisibility In Midlife to Feeling Good & Standing Out!’ or for short ‘The Midlife Visibility Breakthrough’. This is particularly for you, if you’re finding yourself feeling ‘invisible’ from time to time. You’ll find my guidance, questions to ask yourself and practical exercises to support you to regain your confidence and shine brightly in any situation. Click here to read and download your copy of the guide. When we are in the midst of the menopausal years with the various hormonal symptoms we experience in our bodies – and the big changes at home that often happen at this time of our lives, it’s no wonder you can forget how blooming amazing and valuable you are and instead feel like you’re melting into the background. I’d love to hear your feedback on ‘The Midlife Visibility Breakthrough’ – so please message me via email or send me a message on Facebook and let me know! Have a great week! Much love Ali xx
Since moving down to Devon just over a year ago, I’ve been so happy to living in the land of the cream tea! I’ve loved cooking up all sorts of new dishes and creating cakes and bakes galore. And it’s true that once we’re in the menopausal years, the pounds don’t tend to shed so quickly – I always used to be healthily slender – no more. It isn’t something I’m overly concerned about, but when I tried on some new trousers in my local city after Christmas, I’m sure I could hear them scream at me “ha ha! I don’t think so – who are you kidding?”. “Any good?” the shop assistant said. I replied “no… they are something to aim for”. So as last year I was pretty sedentary before and following my ankle replacement operation – and didn’t meet many local people in my new area – it’s all going to change! Slimming World have groups in Honiton and after turning up on the wrong day the first week “why won’t the door open?” Oh yeah… “it’s not Tuesday”… I enrolled the following week. It’s been quite fun exploring the concept of weight loss and health benefits – not to mention which sugary and fatty foods I could be swapping or cutting out. Body image is important to us all, it’s part of your identity – partly what makes you, you. So looking after my body is something I need to take a little more care about – after all, I live within it. So last week I lost my first 1.5lbs just by cutting out the cakes, biscuits and chocolate and ramping up my intake of fresh fruit. I’ll let you know how I get on!
It’s been such a lovely Christmas time, spending it with family here in Devon. Laughing, eating and enjoying the seaside. Yesterday Becky and I met an elderly gentleman who chatted to us in Sidmouth. It hadn’t been a particularly happy time for him as his wife had recently passed away and then his brother just before Christmas. We let him talk, watched him light up as he talked about his wife, poetry and his time leading scout troups in his earlier years. I gave this strange a kiss when we said good bye… I think our chance meeting brought us both a great deal of warmth on a chilly day. If you know of an elder who maybe lonely, please go and visit them or call them, let’s each of us make a difference, it’s a win win I assure you ❤️