Feeling Invisible In Midlife

I mentioned a few weeks ago about the challenges that many midlife women say they face, which is beginning to feel like they are ‘invisible’.  I’ve had some really interesting emails back from ladies on my email list and some vary from the feeling of being ‘invisible’ – to the fear of being ‘visible’. I’ve put together a detailed guide for you – ‘From Invisibility In Midlife to Feeling Good & Standing Out!’ or for short ‘The Midlife Visibility Breakthrough’.  This is particularly for you, if you’re finding yourself feeling ‘invisible’ from time to time. You’ll find my guidance, questions to ask yourself and practical exercises to support you to regain your confidence and shine brightly in any situation. Click here to read and download your copy of the guide. When we are in the midst of the menopausal years with the various hormonal symptoms we experience in our bodies – and the big changes at home that often happen at this time of our lives, it’s no wonder you can forget how blooming amazing and valuable you are and instead feel like you’re melting into the background. I’d love to hear your feedback on ‘The Midlife Visibility Breakthrough’ – so please message me via email or send me a message on Facebook and let me know! Have a great week! Much love Ali xx        

The trousers said “no way!”

Since moving down to Devon just over a year ago, I’ve been so happy to living in the land of the cream tea! I’ve loved cooking up all sorts of new dishes and creating cakes and bakes galore. And it’s true that once we’re in the menopausal years, the pounds don’t tend to shed so quickly – I always used to be healthily slender – no more.  It isn’t something I’m overly concerned about, but when I tried on some new trousers in my local city after Christmas, I’m sure I could hear them scream at me “ha ha! I don’t think so – who are you kidding?”.  “Any good?”  the shop assistant said. I replied “no… they are something to aim for”. So as last year I was pretty sedentary before and following my ankle replacement operation – and didn’t meet many local people in my new area – it’s all going to change! Slimming World have groups in Honiton and after turning up on the wrong day the first week “why won’t the door open?” Oh yeah… “it’s not Tuesday”… I enrolled the following week. It’s been quite fun exploring the concept of weight loss and health benefits – not to mention which sugary and fatty foods I could be swapping or cutting out. Body image is important to us all, it’s part of your identity – partly what makes you, you. So looking after my body is something I need to take a little more care about – after all, I live within it. So last week I lost my first 1.5lbs just by cutting out the cakes, biscuits and chocolate and ramping up my intake of fresh fruit.  I’ll let you know how I get on!

Random acts of kindness

It’s been such a lovely Christmas time, spending it with family here in Devon. Laughing, eating and enjoying the seaside. Yesterday Becky and I met an elderly gentleman who chatted to us in Sidmouth. It hadn’t been a particularly happy time for him as his wife had recently passed away and then his brother just before Christmas. We let him talk, watched him light up as he talked about his wife, poetry and his time leading scout troups in his earlier years. I gave this strange a kiss when we said good bye… I think our chance meeting brought us both a great deal of warmth on a chilly day. If you know of an elder who maybe lonely, please go and visit them or call them, let’s each of us make a difference, it’s a win win I assure you ❤️

It doesn’t have to end!

Being an empty nester doesn’t mean that’s the end of family trips or holidays, no way! I love having my girls on trips away. Earlier this year, Becky came with me on an epic USA 🇺🇸 adventure. This is us in Sedona. The times we have together are so precious, we let every moment count. Where would you like to visit with your grown and flown children?

Book ‘Dream Time’

Yes! A thousand times Yes! Dreaming is good for your soul. Dreaming is allowing yourself to break free from the expectations of others or following the herd and instead opening yourself up to discover what deeply resonates within you. Your wisdom is within. Give yourself time to dream, book ‘dream time’ ‘still time’ into you week ☺️ maybe it’s when you walk the dog, relax in a luxurious bath, meditate, journal, awake first thing, are on a road trip, doodle, or gaze into a fire… hey even when you do the washing up! Allow whatever ideas bubble up from within to be witnessed and honoured by you. Write them down as we all know that dreams can often fade. Take baby steps towards making your dreams come true! What are you dreaming of? How could you make things easier? More fun? What’s next?